I believe it is understandable that many wives are extremely curious about the other woman in the affair. Actually, curious may be too light of a word. For many of us, obsessed is more accurate. Many of us want to know everything that we can about this other woman. But if I am being honest about it, I can tell you that no question is more immediate Russianbrides.com Reviews to us than "why?" And by "why" I mean that we are often left wondering what would drive any decent woman to start up a relationship with a man who has already committed his life to someone else and who may have a family? What kind of woman would willingly insert herself into this situation? What could she possibly be thinking?
A wife may ask about it this way:
"my husband really won't tell me very much about the other woman with whom
he had an affair. I have had to do my own research, but I am limited to what I
have been able to find online and through asking around. The other woman is
younger than my husband. Big surprise, right? He met her at work. Dating co
workers is not allowed at my husband's job. I don't know how their bosses found
out, but they did and they both lost their job. My husband had much more at
risk than the other woman. But still, she wasn't long out of college. This job
was a good opportunity for her and she blew it. Now, she isn't going to be able
to get a good reference and she will likely have a hard time finding another
job. My husband said she knew that he was married and with a family, but I have
no way Russianbrides of
confirming whether or not this is true. Assuming that it is true, I have no
idea why she would take this sort of risk and act in this way for a much older
man. Can't she find someone her own age? What is the other woman usually
thinking when she takes up with a married man? What is in it for her? It's
obvious what is in it for the older, married man. Sex with a younger woman. But
what is in it for her?"
The answer to these questions vary
greatly. Just like every one has a different personality and a different
background, so too does every one have their own reasons. However, after having
written on this topic for quite a long time and after hearing from many of
these women, I tend to see patterns. So in the following article, I'll discuss
some common scenarios that I often see in the hopes that it might give you some
insight Russianbrides.com into the thought process of the other woman.
She's Looking To Advance Herself In
Some Way: I hate to use the word "gold digger." It seems like such a
nasty word. But the connotations for that word are almost universal and every
one knows what this means. However, I do have to stress that this isn't always
about money, although many people have this assumption. Of course, there are
always going to be those women who see a vulnerable older man who is wealthy or
at who at least has more money than they do and see an opportunity. But there
are also those who meet the other man at work and think that he might enhance
their career in some way. Or, she may also think that even if it doesn't
advance her career, it is going to make the time spent at the office a lot more
tolerable and interesting. In short, she is in the relationship because she perceives
that, in least in some way, it is going to enhance something that is important
to her - like her finances, her life style, her work, etc.
She May Think That She Truly Loves
Him: It would be unfair of me not to mention this because I hear it all of the
time. Many "other women" in the affair would truly give almost
anything if the other man wasn't married. This is because she believes that she
has strong feelings for him and she only wants to be with him. She's sorry that
her feelings are going to hurt someone, but she can't turn away. She can't help
how she feels and she often thinks that she won't ever find someone else who
she could love as much. This sometimes happens when the woman is younger and
when she is looking for her first serious relationship when the men in her age
group are still very immature. Frankly, I would not be telling you the truth if
I didn't also mention that this type of "other woman" often gets
hurt. The other man doesn't always share her deep feelings, or, if he does, he
isn't willing to break up his family over those same feelings.
She May Be Looking For An Escape:
You often see this scenario in a situation where both spouses are married. The
other woman will tell you that she is has become invisible to her husband and
that he no longer sees or listens to her. She feels invisible in her own home.
So when someone else's husband listens and pays attention, the relationship is
valuable to her because she is finally getting her needs met. This type of
other woman can get emotionally hurt also. Because the truth is, not every
husband who cheats is looking to fulfill someone else's emotional needs since
he has a woman for whom he already does this - his wife.
She Wants To Take Something From
Someone Else: I saved this for last because I think that this type of other
woman is the most rare. But we've all known someone like her. Some women go
into the affair knowing full well that someone is going to get hurt and not
caring one bit. There are some women who just thrive on taking something that
belongs to someone else. This is usually the type of woman who will call the
wife and take great pleasure in breaking the news of the affair. Often, these
women have participated in multiple affairs, even if the husband has no idea
about this. These affairs usually don't last because the husband can figure
this dynamic out pretty quickly. She's not interested in him as much as she is
interested in creating drama and turmoil. It's never about him or someone else.
It is always about her.
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